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Infidelity and Cheaters
When people first suspect that their spouse is cheating, they struggle with their own feelings of disbelieve. It never feels right to doubt the words of someone who should be your greatest ally. Our feelings of disbelieve are often the direct result of a past experience, and the suspicion that your spouse has the capacity to be unfaithful.
As difficult as it may be, it is always good to trust your instincts. The inner-
There are specific things you should look for, and some specific places you should look if you want to find evidence of cheating.
Remember that very often our instincts are true. If you think something is wrong in your relationship, you’re probably right. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean your spouse is cheating. If you suspect infidelity, keep your cool. It’s important not to let your spouse know that you suspect him if you want to find concrete evidence. If he thinks you’re on to him, he will be more careful, making it more difficult for the private investigators to catch him.
It’s wise not to confront your spouse with your suspicions until you are absolutely sure. If you’re wrong, you may have seriously damaged your marriage. It’s also wise not to assume that your spouse is having an affair just because you’re having one. Very often, unfaithful spouses ease their guilt by assuming their spouse is as guilty as they are.
Infidelity is a serious issue. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, be emotionally prepared to deal with the truth when you find it. Decide if you believe that your marriage is worth saving. You may even want to start counseling on your own before you confront your spouse in order to make the confrontation easier to handle. This is a difficult time in your life, so it’s important to prepare for the outcome, so that no matter what happens, you can take care of yourself.
All Tech Investigations can help you get the proof that you need to get to the truth. You can rest assured that we are well accustomed to the complicated, sensitive and sometimes dangerous aspect involved in divorce and infidelity investigations. Knowing the truth can protect your future interest, your health or simply give you peace of mind. Hiring All Tech Investigations to document your significant other’s infidelity may be beneficial in your divorce (if married) settlement as well.
What to Expect in an Infidelity Investigation:
Investigating a cheating husband or cheating wife is a delicate matter. An important decision has to be made regarding the type of investigation that you are looking for. Are you simply looking for peace of mind to confirm your suspicions, or are you seeking evidence of an extramarital affair for court purposes? If you are simply trying to confirm that your spouse is involved in a marital infidelity then this type of investigation will be cheaper. Instead of having to prove the case to reach the standards of a court hearing, we can document your spouse’s activities.
As an example, if your spouse says they are going to the gym or a friend’s house, we can document where they actually go. This saves you time and money. If you are trying to prove infidelity to prove fault on the part of your spouse for the purpose of gaining an advantage in court, then we need to take extra steps to fully document our findings for trial purposes. Additionally, you may need to document more activity of an extramarital affair to satisfy the standards of a trail. You will need to prove in most cases that they were more than just “friends”. This is usually accomplished by documenting public displays of affection and their spending time together.
Usually, the thing that will tip you off is a change in behavior. So, let’s look at just a few of the behaviors that you might observe, if your loved one was being unfaithful:
Behavior At Home: Your partner or spouse…
Appears distant, shows a lack of interest or develops an unexplained aloofness
Is frequently tired or lacks an interest in the relationship
Comes home smelling of an unfamiliar fragrance
Wears perfume/cologne more often than usual
Arrives home and heads straight into the shower/bath
Gets dressed up a little too well for trips to the grocery store or running some other kind of errand or menial task
Begins to speak more and more harshly to you, or is more sarcastic. Sometimes this is just an attempt to justify their cheating…or to give them an excuse to storm out of the room/house
Asks about your schedule more often than usual
Develops an increased focus on losing weight or pays more attention to their appearance
Stops wearing his/her wedding ring and, when asked, can’t give a reasonable explanation
Romance: Your partner or spouse…
Is no longer interested in sex, or he/she makes excuses for its infrequency.
Starts to request kinky or other erotic sexual activity (behavior) that you’ve never done before, including watching porn
Shows a new talent in the bedroom (that they might have learned from the individual with whom they’ve been cheating)
Appears reluctant to kiss you, or show affection toward you.
Criticizes you for showing him/her attention.
Continues giving poor excuses for why he/she is not in the mood to make love.
Work longer hours, more frequently…and keep you from viewing their paycheck/pay-
Changes their established routine with no apparent reason
Begins discouraging you from calling him/her them at work
Is often unavailable when you try to call him/her at work.
Returns calls long after you leave a message for him/her.
Prefers to attend work functions (or any events) alone and tries to discourage you from attending.
Takes more trips for business reasons and even refuses to let you drive him/her to the airport.
Telephone Mannerisms: Your partner or spouse…
Receives mysterious phone calls.
You get an increasing number of hang-
Phone bills show unexplained toll or long distance charges.
Hurriedly answers the phone to answer it before you do.
Leaves the room to talk on the phone.
Whispers while on the phone.
Suddenly need a cell phone (or pager) and discourages you from looking at or using the phone or pager.
Deletes numbers from caller ID.
Behaves differently or ends the telephone calls abruptly when you enter the room. Or appears to hang up quickly.
Finding credit card receipts for gifts you didn’t receive.
An increase in ATM withdrawals. Especially those from out-
Credit card receipts showing purchases from places that unknown to you or seem suspect
He/she rushes to get the mail before you do.
She/he gets a separate P.O. Box.
Unusual phone numbers appear on the bill.
The duration and time of the calls appear excessive.
He/She are secretive about their cell phone bill.
She/He starts to pay the phone bills or credit card bills themselves.
You notice business travel or other deductions for travel or other expenses that you were unaware of.
The passenger’s seat is adjusted differently than you had left it.
Taking child seat out of the car for no particular reason.
Finding suspicious items like phone numbers, receipts, lipstick, condoms or strange hairs in the vehicle.
Keeping a change of clothes in the trunk.
Unexplained mileage or a lack of additional mileage. For example, if your spouse state they went out of town yet the odometer indicates that only a distance of 25 miles had been driven. Conversely, if your spouse states they’d only been to the office that day, yet their odometer shows many more miles ad been driven, this too, may be a significant matter.
They warily guard access to their computer.
They shut down the computer as you walk into the room.
They add password protection their computer.
Or they stay up to “work” on the computer long after you’ve gone to bed.
They have unusual sites showing in their browser history, or erase them after each late-
They delete email message more frequently.
Again, let me reiterate that these behaviors are only indicators of infidelity and are not absolutes.
Some cheaters are very deceitful and can cover their tracks superbly. They may become more attentive in an effort to compensate for the fact that their attentions are going elsewhere. They behave like “model” parents in an effort to alleviate their guilt. They can juggle the extra-
These constitute even more reason to consider retaining the services of a professional investigator. If, after some consideration, you begin to have suspicions then don’t accuse, but just observe.
If you accuse your partner and are mistaken, you risk causing unnecessary and irreparable damage to your relationship…damage that may take a lot of time to recover from. And, even if you are correct, it’s quite possible that your spouse/partner will be able to explain their behavior in a manner that’s sufficient to cause you raise reasonable doubt. And, because they are now aware that you are suspicions, they will be even more careful and more guarded, making it much more difficult for you to determine the truth.
If you become suspicious, don’t treat the cheater any differently and don’t interfere. Now is the time for careful observation, and not for anger. The cheater will eventually be found out, so it’s important to be patient, observant, and to make note of patterns of behavior.
After some patient observation you’ll probably be able to provide a great deal of helpful information to a professional investigator, so that the investigator can obtain the evidence and documentation you need. Make note of information such as: the most likely days/times when your partner may be misbehaving, places your partner alleges to frequent, people with whom your partner alleges to keep company.
The more information you have (regardless of whether you think it’s important or not), the greater the likelihood an investigator can determine the truth…and do it in the most cost-
A final word of caution:
If you think a spouse or partner is misbehaving while you’re out of town, you may consider pretending to plan a trip out of town, in order to conduct your own surveillance and confirm your suspicions.
You should be discouraged from doing this is because if your suspicions are confirmed, your emotions may cause you to react in a manner that is counter-
Absolutely certain your spouse/partner IS cheating?
Once you’ve observed your spouse or partner for a sufficient amount of time, you may eventually feel that it is necessary to confront him/her your spouse. How do you handle it?
If your intention is to file for divorce if your suspicion is confirmed, then first seek the counsel of an attorney. It is important to understand your options before you decide to confront him/her. Find out about how to protect yourself financially, and get an understanding of the laws regarding child custody and support.
If you feel you absolutely must confront the alleged cheater, make sure to do so at a time when he/she is not rushed or running late. You want them to have time to speak with you. You don’t want them to have a reason to leave the room/house. Don’t ask while he/she is driving and of course: don’t ask while children are present.
Before you actually confront them, ask simple, non-
Once you finally confront the person, you’ll need to carefully observe their behavior.
You can expect him/her to be defensive. They may become evasive and reply with something like, “What makes you think that?” (trying to see where they’d slipped up). Or, they get indignant, “Why on earth would you say such a thing?” or “I’m offended that you would say such a thing!”.
Often, innocent people will respond directly by saying, “Yes” or “No”. They are more likely to respond to your inquiry directly, kindly and patiently. They are more likely to show that they are willing to discuss your concerns and to address those things that caused you to doubt in the first place. Cheaters are generally very uncomfortable about addressing the issue and may “explode” and become very defensive and angry.
When confronting them, if may help to inquire about specific occasions when you -
Finally: Do not resort to violence.
I cannot stress this enough. Criminal charges and possible jail time will cause you to suffer and will keep you from making sure the cheater gets what they deserve.
If you are the victim of a cheater, then you will probably have some very important decisions to make. So, the first step is always to determine the unbiased, objective truth.
To make sure that you know the truth, consider retaining the services of a professional investigator. They have the experience to deal with these matters objectively. They also have the equipment necessary to obtain the proof you’ll need in case you go to court.
And if you have an attorney, your investigator should work with them to make sure that their combined efforts focus on making sure you reap the maximum benefit.
If your spouse or partner is cheating on you, it forces you into making some very important decisions. The decisions are not only about your own future, but also about your children’s future as well.
We make our best decisions when we know the truth and understand the reality of things. The decisions may not be easy, but they are still the best decisions we can make.
“Sex” is the number 1 topic searched on the internet
25% of total search engine requests are porn-
20% of men admit accessing pornography at work
13% of women admit to accessing pornography on the internet
53% of Promise Keeper men viewed pornography the week before
10% of internet users admit to having an internet sexual addiction
22% of married men have strayed at least once during their marriage
14% of women admit to having an affair during their marriage
70% of married women and 54% of married men were unaware of the others infidelity
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